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Always A Reason To Be Thankful

Guaranteed Job Security

My Mother's Day Wish

Passion, Purpose, and Persistence

Recognize the Power of Your Choices

Take Action to Make Your Life Count

The Power of a Smile

Don't Quit, Achieve Your Dreams

Too Busy to Be Fruitful

Commit to Wise Choices Right Now

Don't Abort Your Dreams

Eliminate Worrying Before it Eliminates You

Life's Delays Are Not Denials

Sorely Tempted To Lie

The Courage to Seize the Moments of Your Life

Quit Waiting for Tomorrow

There’s Always a Reason to be Thankful
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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“Give thanks in all circumstances,” that’s what the Bible says. It took a while for that verse to make sense to me. How can one possibly give thanks when one is hurting?

Finally, one day it hit me. I had it all wrong. It doesn’t say to give thanks for the difficult things you are experiencing; it says give thanks even while you may be experiencing difficulties. No matter what you may be currently going through, trust me; there is always a reason to be thankful.

On a typically routine visit to the doctor, I was reminded anew to count my blessings and give thanks at all times.  One of the things I had to do during this visit was to review my personal and family medical history. As question after question was posed about my health, and possible ailments and diseases that run in my family where reeled off, I began to experience a profound sense of gratitude.

Diabetes? No.  Heart disease? No.  Kidney problems? No. Thyroid problems? No. Sickle cell anemia? No. Heart defects? No. Cancer? No. Tuberculosis? No. Stroke? No. Asthma? No. Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, HIV? No. Autism? No.

Now, before you get your pants all in a bunch, I have been through my share of health issues and trials, as have many of us, but the real question is, “How often do we ever look at the broad spectrum of all the things we have been spared, rather than just focusing on the misfortunes that may have befallen us?”

We may not have everything we think we deserve and want in life, but how about all the blessings that have come our way, all the heartache and pain we have been spared through no particular doings of our own? Really, what makes us any more special than the person next door who may be in a struggle from which we have been spared?

All the way back home, I stopped whining internally about the seemingly endless rain , and rather meditated on the goodness of a God who lavishes so much love on us all, and thanked him for all my undeserved blessings.

While others languish in hunger and die of starvation, my dilemma is deciding what I feel like eating at the moment. I fill up my gas tank and don’t have to count my pennies. I go home to a house with all the utilities on. I pick up my healthy, active and happy children from schools where they have been nurtured by loving and well-trained teachers. My parents are well, still happily married, and always just a call away should I need help. I could go on.

I could also go on about some challenges I still face, but what is the point? I feel so much better, refreshed and energized to tackle the day just by choosing to focus on the good and giving thanks for all the bad that has bypassed me.

How about you? Is there anything for which you can be thankful?  Is there anything you deserved but did not get, like a speeding ticket, a warrant for your arrest for petty theft for taking the office stapler and pens, or children who are as monstrous as you used to be? How many accidents have you been spared?

Doesn’t it just perk you up to know that no matter how bad it seems like you have it, it could be a lot worse? It definitely makes me more thankful for the life I have. It assures me someone does care deeply for me, even when I may not realize it. It makes life so much easier to handle, even on those dark and rainy days.

Guaranteed Job Security
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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I know you heard the news this week, as well as I did. Thousands upon ten thousands of workers being laid off.  Regardless of seniority or how many years they had worked in the business, workers were barely given two weeks notice that they will no longer have a job. The tendency is to sink into despair. Many are worried if their job will be next. 

But it is a funny thing about worrying. It occupies us, even drains us, but it seldom accomplishes anything. For many, these are desperate times, but I guarantee you that what these times calls for is some serious action, a positive and expectant outlook, a ‘can’t fail’ attitude and an unwavering commitment to excellence.

Yep, I think that the current state of our economy is a wake-up call for us all. Hopefully, we will all think twice before we  gripe, complain about and play around on our jobs. The knowledge that we are mostly expendable should usher in a new era of grateful, dependable workers (or so I hope). It is time to stop looking at our employment as an entitlement rather than an opportunity we should appreciate.

It is also time for us to become bolder and to stop putting limits on what we are capable of because we want to play it safe. In my line of work, I can’t tell you how many women I talk to who claim they want a better life, more flexibility, higher income, work that fulfills them, yet they hesitate to take any steps to make any of those dreams become reality.

I am all for being employed, but I surely would like to see some of us step out during this time armed with our talents, passion and unquenchable thirst for excellence and go out and create new businesses, new job opportunities, and innovate what we already have.  It would stand to reason that we are more vulnerable when we put all our eggs in one basket.

If any of us want true job security, then it would behoove us to commit to excellence and commit to it now! What I know for sure is that if a person is excellent at what they do and in their attitude, they may lose a job due to reasons beyond their control, but they will always be offered another one and it will be based on referrals.

A great example of this is Joseph in the Bible. Joseph was a young man committed to excellence.
After being sold as a slave to the Egyptians, he quickly rose through the ranks at Potiphar’s house due to his excellence.  When he was falsely accused and then imprisoned, he again quickly established himself as a person of excellence even within the prison system.  When two men needed their dreams interpreted he did so; and accurately. As a result, a couple of years later when the Pharaoh needed his dream interpreted, Joseph was summoned from the dungeons and he again delivered  with excellence.

Speaking boldly and confidently, Joseph not only interpreted the dream, but laid out a course of action for the Pharaoh to follow to save his people and the entire region from certain famine. Joseph was solution-oriented and committed to excellence. He didn’t ask, “What’s in it for me?”  He just delivered. As a result, he was offered the second highest position in all of the land. Can you be a Joseph? Can you commit yourself to excellence in your studies, in your cleaning, in your work, in whatever you do?

In his 1989 book, Leading the Way, Paul Borthwick stated, “Excellence means being your best. Excellence means being better tomorrow than you were yesterday. Excellence means matching your practice with your potential."  

What is your potential? Do you even know anymore? Take this time while you may be out of a job and actually commit yourself to living up to your potential. Get off your bottom and start putting that brain God gave you to work. Fight through the fears, the insecurities, the naysayers, and any other challenges that arise. Promise yourself excellence and then follow through. Here’s wishing you your abundant.

My Mother’s Day Wish For Us All
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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Dear Stay-at-Home Mom, Single Mom, Glamorous Mom, Plain Jane Mom, Have Everything Mom, Have Nothing Mom, Foster Mom, Adopted Mom, Battered Mom, Grand Mom, God Mom, Happily Married Mom, Miserably Married Mom, Exhausted Mom, Playful Mom, Teenage Mom, Over-the-Hill Mom, Military Mom, Deflated Mom, Grieving Mom, Going-Out-of-Your -Mind Mom, Never Held Your Baby Mom, may you know today, and for the rest  of your life that God loves you with an everlasting love.

God loves you. He sees your heart. He stores each tear you cry. He hears your screams for help (even when they are inaudible). He records every sigh of exhaustion, frustration, and despair. He feels your pain, more than you will ever know. He acknowledges every spoken and unspoken prayer.

He longs to comfort you. He wants to pull you under the shadow of His wings and nurse you back to strength. He wants to pour joy and hope into you. To give you the confidence for your life and your calling as a mother. He aches to teach you things that will lighten your load, and light your path. He is saying to us all, on this glorious Mother’s day, my grace is sufficient for you.  My unlimited favor will be on you, though you may be undeserving, if you will just seek me and trust me to help you.

You know, I’ve had a lot of jobs and pursued various careers in my lifetime, but nothing has ever even come close to unraveling me and shaking the core of my existence as being a mother. How is it that the very thing that brings so much fulfillment, joy and meaning to a person’s life can also be so exhausting, frustrating, taxing and humbling?

I have often railed against the fact that when I brought each child into the world, not one of them came with an instruction manual that I have been able to find, let alone decipher. I try to emulate the things I  saw my mother do that I thought brought about great results and I watch and read what other mothers do just to get some new clues. So, how is it that at the end of most days, I am still praying that my children turn out great?

Think about it? Do you really honestly believe that any mother looks into the eyes of her infant and asks, “What are all the ways I can hurt and limit you?” I don’t think so. Yet, we all know children who act out because they are in pain or because no one has ever taught them basic manners and appropriate behavior.

I recall watching an episode of the Oprah Show that was all the buzz with the parents in my child’s preschool class. It was called ‘The Truth about Motherhood’. It featured women from various backgrounds who regaled us with tales about the trials of being a mother. Everything from wearing your child’s diaper so as not to pull into a rest stop and wake the kids up, to not taking a shower or giving your children a bath in 3 days.

Most people thought it was humorous. Quite frankly, I cried. I cried because behind the smiles was a boatload of pain, frustration, and women who were announcing to the world that they were overwhelmed and in dire need of some help. I cried because all the answers they were getting were the same worldly wisdom that has caused mothers more guilt than freedom. I cried because though I haven’t worn a diaper nor not showered for 3 days, I can relate to the challenges of being a mother.

Here’s what I’ve found, God gives us children. He created them and he created us. He never intended for us to parent these children apart from him. He never intended for us to live any part of our lives apart from him. The only way I have ever been able to find peace, to not succumb to societal pressure of what a perfect mother looks and acts like is when I have chosen to really walk hand-in-hand with God and allow his grace to minister to and guide me.

This Mother Day’s I hope you get hugs and kisses, but most of all I desire for all of us a closer walk with God. Here’s wishing you your abundant life.

Purpose, Passion and Persistence Will Take You Where ever You Please
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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A wise person once said that too often we miss out on the greatest opportunities in our lives because they come disguised as hard work. Survey a group of people and most would like to be comfortable – have expendable income, live in a nice house, drive nice cars, go on vacations when they want, etc. Well, living in our great nation, you can have anything you want, but you have to be willing to do what it takes to get it. Aha, that’s where you lose most people.

If it requires some modicum of effort, people start bailing on you, oh so they think. In actuality, they are bailing on themselves, their dreams, their aspirations, and ultimately, their destiny. It is a proven fact that if you want great success, you must be willing to put forth great effort.

So, what is it that prevents so many of us from ever living up to our potential? I believe it boils down to a lack of purpose, passion and an inability to persist.

Persistence paid off for American astronomer Clyde Tombaugh, who discovered the planet Pluto. Tombaugh took up the search in March 1929. Time magazine recorded the investigation: "He examined scores of telescopic photographs each showing tens of thousands of star images in pairs under the dual microscope.

It often took three days to scan a single pair. It was exhausting, eye-cracking work--in his own words, 'brutal, tediousness.' And it went on for months. Star by star, he examined 20 million images. Then on February 18, 1930, as he was blinking at a pair of photographs in the constellation Gemini, 'I suddenly came upon the image of Pluto!" It was recorded as the most dramatic astronomic discovery in nearly 100 years. 

Most of us are not like Tombaugh, we might be willing to work, but only if the results are immediate. Most people don’t succeed in business because they quit before the business can even show a profit. Consider the persistence of the stone cutter.

“I look at a stone cutter hammering away at a rock a hundred times without so much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the 101st blow it splits in two. I know it was not the one blow that did it, but all that had gone before.”
There is no overnight success. If you ever achieve a level of success without having earned it, you are almost guaranteed to lose it. Why is this so? Because it is not the success itself that makes you; it is whom you become in the process that ultimately matters.

Having said that, it is tough to persist at something when it is not tied to your purpose. I can write these columns weekly for six years and never weary because writing this column is one way I achieve my purpose to empower people to live up to their God-given potential.

If you want true success in life, find your purpose and make sure that what you do advances that purpose. George Bernard Shaw, quoted in the book, Courage - You Can Stand Strong in the Face of Fear stated, “This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one: the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap, and being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.”

Could you feel the passion in his writing? Yep, that is the gift of living purposefully; you discover you are also living passionately. Passionate people make things happen. They have a vision and passion enlarges it for everyone else to catch the vision too. Look at any coach of a top team, you see and sense the passion.
Want to take advantage of the opportunities in your life? Find your purpose, work with passion and persist at your work no matter the obstacles.

Recognize the Power of Your Choices
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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Are you tired of all the news coverage on the doom and gloom we are facing? As I watched one host and his guests remunerating problem after problem, whether it is the inflation they are predicting, or the national debt, it occurred to me that while we may whine and groan and complain and blame, we, as a nation, are in the situation we are in today as a result of the choices we have made, and the choices we have allowed others to make for us.

A guy on the radio put it this way, “We live and die by our choices.” I don’t know about you but I felt like a bolt of lightning had just hit me when I heard those words. Oh, dear heavenly Father, I have made many a poor choice, are you really going to make me deal with the consequences? Please save me from myself.

You may be like me, realizing that you haven’t always made the wisest of choices. And like me, you may also have lived long enough to bear the consequences of those choices. It is for this reason that if I were to give a commencement address this season, I would stress this rule to all the graduates: You will live and die by your choices.

Choose wisely where and how you spend your time. We all only have 24 hours in a day. What do you do with yours? Choose wisely whom you hang around. My grandfather always used to say, “Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you will be.” Choose wisely what habits you form.

Trying some marijuana may be all the rage, but where can that choice lead? Perhaps you are struggling with whether to become sexually active or whether to embrace abstinence; choose wisely. Is this the person with whom you want to share a child? Are you responsible enough to do right by that child at this point in your life?

You may be struggling with the “grass is greener on the other side” syndrome. Perhaps, your co-worker appears easier on the eyes that the one to whom you gave your vow. Be careful the slippery slope of intimate conversations, shared lunches, stolen glances.

Does it seem like everyone is taking a great family vacation, but you? Be careful the pressure to keep up with the Joneses and get yourself further in debt. The choice is yours and we will all live and die by those choices.

Wayne Dyer advises, “ Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” Viktor E. Frankl reminds us, “Everything can be taken away from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedom — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” Whatever your current circumstances, you still have the power to choose your attitude.

Some of us may think that we can outsmart destiny; that somehow we are untouchable and life’s rules don’t apply to us. Think again. Alfred A. Montapert emphatically states, “Nobody ever did, or ever will, escape the consequences of his choices.” That’s right. Nobody!!!

As I look over my life I can clearly see the truth of Robert F. Bennett’s observation, “ Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.”

It is a freedom that can be very intimidating for many of us, especially if we have a track history of making poor decisions. You begin to question whether you have the capabilities to choose wisely so you give others permission to make choices for you. But guess what? That, in and of itself, is a choice, and you will still bear the consequences for absolving yourself of making your own choices. The power of choice is one even the most miserable of us still has. Choose wisely.

Take Action to Make Your Life Count
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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Pulitzer Prize winner, Mary Oliver asks the haunting question, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” You would have to be without a pulse for that question not to stop you in your tracks. What are we doing with our precious lives?

As I contemplated her question, it occurred to me that it would be quite simple to rattle off a list of grandiose dreams and plans, all of which will be great if they ever stopped just being plans and I actually acted on them. Sometimes we get so overwhelmed with the long term that we do not realize that it is what we do today that determines what tomorrow will look and feel like so we had better just start with today.

 Annie Dillard once said, “How we spend our days is of course how we spend our lives.” Mary Kay Ash, using a lesson she learned from Ivy Lee and Charles Schwab, encouraged us to end every day by writing out a list of the 6 most important things we will accomplish the next day and to list them in order of priority. This single act sets us up to be infinitely more effective as we then have a clear sense of what must be done first and are therefore less prone to distractions and other incidentals that amount to a lot of activity without progress.

For those of us who believe we have to think through every little step and plan out every move in triplicate, perhaps Dr. J.B. Gambrel’s amusing story from General Stonewall Jackson's famous valley campaign will help. Jackson's army found itself on one side of a river when it needed to be on the other side. After telling his engineers to plan and build a bridge so the army could cross, he called his wagon master in to tell him that it was urgent the wagon train cross the river as soon as possible. The wagon master started gathering all the logs, rocks and fence rails he could find and built a bridge.

Long before day light General Jackson was told by his wagon master all the wagons and artillery had crossed the river. General Jackson asked what the engineers were doing. The wagon master's only reply was that they were in their tent drawing up plans for a bridge. 

When it is all boiled down, I believe we are what we do. Our actions define us a lot more loudly and accurately than our words. Of course, some may take umbrage at that statement. We rationalize about our good intentions and remind all about the obstacles in our way, but as Caroline Myss said, “You cannot change anything in your life with intention alone. Intention without action is useless.”

So, how about the argument that the challenges in our way are insurmountable and that a little person has no chance making any changes of any magnitude? Well, Edmund Burke’s response is that nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could only do a little.  I wholeheartedly agree. 

Who knows if your “little” is exactly the spark needed to light a flame in the hearts and minds of others? Don’t wait to act when you are absolutely sure everything will work out perfectly. The Bible says that if a farmer put off sowing seed till all conditions were perfect she will never plant anything.

Take action in the direction of your goals. One consistent step after another, no matter how small, will lead to progress. Don’t despair either. The actions you take will actually serve as your antidote to that sickening feeling of fear and anxiety that all too often cripples us.

Remember the words of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow:
The heights by great men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight.
 But they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night.

So, what are your plans for your life? Are you taking the action steps to get you there? It’s not too late to make your precious life count.

The Power of a Smile
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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There is a haunting song by the great Nat King Cole that comes to mind every time I find myself slipping into one of those funks. You know that state of mind where everything seems unfair to you and nothing looks like it will ever work out.

In his rich, one-of-a-kind voice, he sings the following words:
Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though it's breaking
When there are clouds in the sky, you'll get by
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You'll see the sun come shining through for you

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That's the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile

His rendition of the song always makes me cry, not just because of its melody, but because of the stark sincerity of its lyrics. It doesn’t gloss over the fact that life sometimes deals us hands we would rather not bear; it just matter-of-factly tells you to deal with it and keep going.

As simplistic as it may sound, I have found that if I am feeling down, and I fight the urge to wallow in self pity and just smile, I do begin to feel better. People around me also seem to respond better when I have a smile on my face rather than a frown. I guess it goes back to the saying that you can get a lot more bees with honey than vinegar.

With so many of us succumbing to the pressures of our present economic and moral state, it seems that fewer of us are finding reasons to smile. So I decided to share some words of wisdom on the importance of smiling in the hopes that we will all make a commitment to smile at everyone.

Anthony J. D’Angelo opines that a smile is the key that fits the lock of everybody’s heart. Another anonymous writer concurs, “There are hundreds of languages in the world, but a smile speaks them all.” A Japanese proverb goes so far as to attribute strength to the smile, “One who smiles rather than rages is always the stronger.”

Did you know that smiling makes you feel better about yourself, even if you don't feel like it, and it always makes other people think better of you? Even the great Dale Carnegie preaches about the importance of the smile in influencing people.

Carole King advises, “You've got to get up every morning with a smile on your face, and show the world all the love in your heart.”

Smiling will even add years to your life, at least that’s what a Chinese proverb portends. Joseph Addison, English Essayist and Statesman wrote, “What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. These are but trifles, to be sure; but scattered along life's pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.

In a 1994 article in Bits and Pieces, it was reported that Holiday Inn, when looking for 500 people to fill positions for a new facility, interviewed 5,000 candidates. The hotel managers interviewing these people excluded all candidates who smiled fewer than four times during the interview. This applied to people competing for jobs in all categories.

The bottom line is that a smile will not only brighten your face, it brightens the environment for everyone and makes the world a better place. Smiles cost nothing and yet give so much. Coming from one who used to be dubbed “Miss Cantankerous” and who believed smiling was a sign of vulnerability and an invitation for people to bother you, you have to know I must now truly believe in the power of the smile to write this article.

Why don’t you try it for yourself and see? For the next 3 days, share your smile with everyone and see how the world responds to you.

Too Busy to Be Fruitful
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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Have you noticed how often people throw around the word ‘busy?’  It is the number one excuse I hear people, particularly women, give for just about everything.  I am too busy to stop by. I am too busy to work out. I am too busy to eat right. I am too busy to go out on a date with my spouse. I am too busy to go to a house of worship. Too busy to mentor. Too busy to build intimate relationships with anyone. Just too busy.

But as the great Thomas Edison observed, “Being busy does not always mean real work. The object of all work is production or accomplishment and to either of these ends there must be forethought, system, planning, intelligence, and honest purpose, as well as perspiration. Seeming to do is not doing.

I was definitely one to use my so-called busy schedule to wiggle out of many an invitation and even some opportunities.  One day, I got a wake-up call when my then 9-year old admonished his sister for wanting me to give her some attention. His exact words where, “Stop, don’t you see Mommy is busy?”  To which she responded, “So, she is always busy.”

Well, I am not one to sit around and condemn myself for not being a Stepford wife and a perfect mom. Most so-called perfect Moms I know have later confessed to being on anti-depressants. But I am one to take time to examine whether there is any truth in the feedback I get, and to try to learn from it.

When I thought about it, there was definitely a lot of truth to what both my children had expressed. At the time, I was a mother of four young children and a business owner as well. To be successful in all my roles I worked hard. I guess that could translate as being busy all the time. I was busy tackling the never-ending laundry.  Busy cleaning the kitchen for the umpteenth time. Busy cooking a meal or preparing a snack, busy fielding phone calls for my business, busy researching for my column, busy helping a child with homework, busy, busy, busy. Busy being busy.

I looked up the word busy and I didn’t like much of what I read – to be occupied, engaged, interfering, meddlesome, and officious. Not quite the image I envisaged for myself. Now, the Bible admonishes women to be busy in their homes (on that count alone I know I am getting some serious brownie points), but the same book also refers to busybodies as being highly undesirable.

I guess it all boils down to what we are so busy doing? Are we really that busy when Media Trend Tracks reports that in 2007 the average woman spent 5 hours and 14 minutes watching TV each day? That’s more than a 35-hour work week.

And with the growing popularity of DVR’s and TIVO, that number is likely to increase in the next few years. Interestingly enough, more and more studies are suggesting that people are also spending what I consider an inordinate amount of time surfing the web, and visiting sites like Facebook.

So, are we really as busy as we purport to be? Are we fruitful in our endeavors or just ‘wasting’ or ‘killing’ time? Are we hiding behind being busy instead of confronting the lack of significance or sense of achievement in our lives?

Someone once said, “Activity is not accomplishment. Motion is not progress.  Being busy does not necessarily equate to being fruitful.”

This year, I will be more intentional with my time. Is my activity yielding good fruit or am I just spinning my wheels? Can I plan better? Can I get more organized? Can I delegate more? Can I make my work more joyful? Can I cut out the tome killers and make more time to build beautiful memories and intimate relationships with people all around me? Can I focus on fruit (the outcome) and not just mere activity to feed my ego?

Next time my children have a similar conversation, I would like it to go something like this, “Don’t interrupt Mommy now, be patient and let her accomplish her goals. You know she always sets aside special time for each of us.”

Laugh if you must, but I am committing to fruit-bearing activity, not just busyness. How about you?

Commit to Wise Choices Right Now
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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My three year old daughter loves to repeat everything her teacher, Mrs.  Garver says, and one of those sayings is: There are consequences for your choices. Bad choices equal bad consequences; good choices equal good consequences.

I love that she is hearing that message so early in life, and not just from her parents. By God’s grace, she will always be inclined to measure the foreseeable consequences of her actions prior to making them. It is a message that the rest of us would do well to heed at all times, and particularly now, during this economic period.

 I am blessed to interact with hundreds of women monthly. The women I meet cut across all socioeconomic classes, race, age, religion, etc. What has astonished me over the course of these interactions is how fearful so many of us are of a little hard work. I hear women share about their dreams, their desires, their aspirations, and yet no sooner are the words out of their mouths and they start giving me all the reasons why they will not make the changes necessary to bring about the results they claim they want.

The more I interact with people the more convinced I am that we are mostly the architects of our lives. I realize it is popular to blame others, particularly our parents for anything that is off kilter in our lives. A great example is Ms. Suleman (aka Octomom), single mother of 14 children, all of whom were conceived artificially, who apparently is blaming the fact that she was an only child in a dysfunctional family for her obsession with children. I can only wonder what her children could choose to do after they are brought up in her “functional” home.

Are you going to make good choices and reap great consequences, or are you going to make bad choices? How are you handling yourself at this moment? Are you committing to giving life all you have, or are you lazing around and lying to yourself about how everything is out of your control?

Edgar A. Guest said, “You are the person who has to decide. Whether you'll do it or toss it aside; you are the person who makes up your mind. Whether you'll lead or will linger behind. Whether you'll try for the goal that's afar. Or just be contented to stay where you are.”

As Humans, we have the power of choice. And that choice is a catalyst for change. Whatever your current situation, you still possess the POWER to make choices that will bring about the changes you want. One writer notes that change is a catalyst that can elevate us to heroic heights or hurl us to desperate levels of despair.

 Our choices begin the minute we open our eyes in the morning. Do we jump out of bed ready to engage the day, or do we turn over to get an additional hour or four of lazing around? Do we get our minds and bodies ready to work, or do we call in sick? Do we eat healthy or stuff ourselves with junk? Each choice either leads to success or mediocrity and despair.

For all of us who realize that the choices we make today will dictate the quality of our tomorrows, here are some keys to making better choices. First, we need to be aware of our choices. Look at your specific actions and check to see if they are bringing about your desired outcomes. Secondly, we must make decisions based on our observations and take appropriate action. If our choices are harming us, change them. If they are helping us succeed, stay with them. Decisions without action are worthless. As Arnold H. Glasow wrote, “Ideas not coupled with action never become bigger than the brain cells they occupied.”

We all have choices to make, and whatever we choose, we will have to live with the consequences. God, himself, said, “I place before you life or death, blessings or curses; … choose life. “ So let’s choose wisely.

Don’t Abort Your Dreams
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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What do you dream about? What typically happens to your dreams? Do you work to make them a reality? Do you forget them in the harsh light of day? Are they snatched from you? Do you willingly abort them?

We all start off as dreamers. Watch any group of young children play and you will be exposed to a world of make-believe where anything they can conceive does indeed come true. Sticks turn into magic wands, tattered clothes become beautiful ball gowns, and a barely airborne ball is celebrated as a record-shattering homerun.

But our play and our language start to change as we get older. For many of us we become “realistic.” Just another word for jaded, hurt, distrustful, fearful, cowardly, and disenchanted. We over-intellectualize every opportunity, always looking for all the reasons we shouldn’t, and ignoring the reasons why we should. We stop dreaming. What’s the point anyway? There are no Unicorns, no knights in shining armor, no fairy godmothers, and God has quit the miracle business, or so we believe.

So, what is left when we stop dreaming? What is left when we choose to abort every dream we have? Langston Hughes, famed writer had the following to say about dreams:

Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow.

The Bible says that hope deferred makes the heart sick. Many times when I speak with people, they are compelled to show me glimpses of dreams they have dreamed. Sometimes, I can sense that they are asking me to give them hope and to breathe life into that dream. Sometimes it seems they are seeking for someone to validate their decision and help assuage the guilt they feel at abandoning their dreams.

This is what I know for sure. God has been speaking to people through dreams since the beginning of times. But we are not just supposed to dream big dreams in the dark of the night and discard them in the morning. We are supposed to wake up and do the work it requires to make those dreams a reality.

Mark Twain once wrote, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.

Who are you allowing to dissuade you from your dream? It doesn’t take much to tear down. Even an imaginative two-year old could destroy a house, but how many can actually build one? So many dreams are aborted because some knucklehead around us laughed at our dream, ridiculed our abilities and magnified our shortcomings.

So why do some nurture their dreams, while others kill theirs? FEAR. Mary Manin Morrissey says, “You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.” Chinese Taoist philosopher, Lao Tzu, admonishes, “Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.”

There is only one way I know to conquer fear and silence your detractors; face your fear. Shut out the negativity and persevere no matter what. It is not how fast you run the race. It is not that you never have any setbacks. It is that you never quit and you keep growing and learning and pursuing that dream.

Consider the lowly store clerk who dreamed of returning to the NFL and being an outstanding quarterback. As improbable as it may have seemed, Kurt Warner made it back into the NFL and went on to lead the Arizona Cardinals to a Super Bowl championship game?  How about Dr. Ben Carson? Now a world renowned pediatric neurosurgeon, he was written off as the dumbest kid in his third grade class, but he didn’t let that stop him.

Never laugh at anyone’s dreams, and ignore those who laugh at yours. I am convinced that people who don’t have dreams don’t have much, and would like you to join their ranks. Your dream was entrusted to you for a reason. Nurture it. The world needs what you have to offer.

Eliminate Worry before It Eliminates You
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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Worry seems to be the new All-American past time. Ask a person how they are doing and you just might regret showing that you care by the time they have bombarded you with a stream of negative thoughts.

Did you know that the average person’s anxiety is focused on 40%  of things that will never happen, 30%  of things about the past that can’t be changed, 12% on criticism by others that was  mostly untrue, 10% about health, which gets worse with stress, and only 8% about real problems that will be faced?

A wise person once said, “Worry is fear's extravagance. It extracts interest on trouble before it comes due. It constantly drains the energy God gives us to face daily problems and to fulfill our many responsibilities. It is therefore a sinful waste. A woman who had lived long enough to have learned some important truths about life remarked, ‘I've had a lot of trouble -- most of which never happened!’

J. Arthur Rank, an English executive, decided to do all his worrying on one day each week. He chose Wednesdays. When anything happened that gave him anxiety and annoyed his ulcer, he would write it down and put it in his worry box and forget about it until the next Wednesday. The interesting thing was that on the following Wednesday when he opened his worry box, he found that most of the things that had disturbed him during the past six days were already settled. It would have been useless to have worried about them.

Walter Kelly reminds us that, “Worry is faith in the negative, trust in the unpleasant, assurance of disaster, and belief in defeat. Worry is wasting today's time to clutter up tomorrow's opportunities with yesterday's troubles.” Did you know that a dense fog that covers a seven-city-block area one hundred feet deep is composed of less than one glass of water divided into sixty thousand million drops. Not much is there but it can cripple an entire city.  Imagine that! That is exactly what worry does to us.

As a mother, I think when you bring your child into the world the doctors secretly implant a worry chip in you. I have known women who can’t sleep because they have to check on their child every hour to ensure he or she is still breathing. As our children grow, we worry about them getting hurt, not being liked, not being smart enough, etc., etc.

When they drive away in a car alone for the first time, we imagine every possible horrible scenario and worry ourselves into ulcers and migraines. In this economy, people are worrying about jobs, debt, bills, their health, marriages, and the future.

To worry may make us feel like we are at least doing something, but what does worrying really accomplish? One person put it this way, “Worrying is like rocking in a chair. There is a lot of activity, but you’re not going anywhere.”

In fact, Mahatma Gandhi cautioned against worrying when he noted, “There is nothing that wastes the body like worry, and one who has any faith in God should be ashamed to worry about anything whatsoever.

Jesus, the son of God himself, and the man whose resurrection from the dead we celebrate, admonished us, “Do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?”

Never one to leave us without hope, he shares the secret to overcoming the tendency to worry and to have peace. “But seek first God’s kingdom and righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

I hope we will embrace this God-breathed truth to eliminate worry from our lives. Rather than worry, accept his gift of peace and provision through salvation.

Life’s Delays Are Not Necessarily Denials
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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Have you ever headed out on a trip, or just tried to reach a certain destination, when you find out the road you intended to take is closed? What do you do? Do you take the detour or give up on the trip and head home?

I have experienced my fair share of setbacks, delays, and major defeats. After one colossal disappointment that included a significant investment of time, effort and money, my pastor was compelled to remind me that God’s delays don’t mean denials.

Looking back, I know that there are many times when, I, through my actions, set myself up for a hard fall. But, there have been times when I did everything I knew to be right, committed my plans to God and still things didn’t work out as I had hoped. What do you do in those situations?

U.S. President Lincoln’s mother died when he was seven; it was one of many personal and political reverses that Mr. Lincoln suffered in the five decades before his election to the presidency in 1860. One of his sons died in 1850, and another a mere 2 years later. He suffered two defeats for the U.S. Senate, including one in which an obscure statute was used to send his opponent to the Senate after Lincoln had won the popular vote. Other reverses included crushing debts from the failure of his attempts to run a general store, the death of a woman he hoped to marry and the breakup of engagements to two other women.

What kept him going? How did he keep bouncing back, again and again? He stayed optimistic. You know, how we handle delays and disappointments will go a long way in determining the quality of our lives. There is no escaping failure and setbacks, but successful people know it is only temporary. The key is to learn, regroup and never quit. We have to shift our paradigms and start to see delays and setbacks as
opportunities for advancement and fulfillment, not death sentences.

Jodi Detrick, a Christian writer, reminds us that there may be very good reasons why we experience delays and setbacks. God may be preparing a situation or a person ahead for you that will propel you faster towards your goal, but first you must slow down so you don’t miss your destiny.

Delays may also be a tool to refine our character and deepen our roots. It has been noted that the citrus trees in Florida bring forth their sweetest fruits a year after they have had to withstand limited rainfall. Apparently, the trees are forced to send their roots deeper into the soil in order to find sustenance and consequently find more nutrient rich soil than what they would have with shallow roots.  Of course these deeper roots also stand them in good stead when storms rage. So too is it with us; adversity will make us stronger and wiser if we don’t let it overwhelm us.

Sometimes, delays and disappointments are actually of a spiritual source. In the book of Daniel it is written that God had heard Daniel’s prayers and had indeed sent a messenger with the answer to the prayer, but the messenger had been delayed, and more help had to be dispatched. So, do as Daniel did. Pray, fast and act on your belief that help is on the way.

Finally, delays can make us a lot more appreciative of what we have and when we eventually reach our destination or achieve the goal, the victory is much sweeter. When you experience loss, you begin to appreciate life more.

This is a fact of life; at any time in your life, you have just dealt with a setback, are in the midst of one, or are headed for one. Face it head on and whatever you do, don’t lose hope, and don’t quit.

Sorely tempted to lie … over and over and over again
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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Ever forgotten an appointment or perhaps a birthday or anniversary? How did you make it up to the person? Well, I simply forgot a phone appointment I had with a potential client. I had every intention of keeping the appointment, but began work on another project and lost track of time –a whopping full hour. .

I had not yet established rapport with this potential client and I struggled with what I should say in my apology so that she would give me a second chance. A zillion stories came to mind. I could say I was rushed to the emergency room, or that I had to run to the school to pick up a sick child. I could say my phone lines were down and the baby threw my cell phone in the toilet. I could have told her any number of things, but I knew they were all lies.  

After agonizing over my dilemma, it occurred to me, “Every temptation is an opportunity to come closer to God.” So, I took a deep breath, called and apologized to my potential client and waited for her response. Had I just blown it? To my relief, she graciously brushed aside my apologies and rescheduled the appointment.

We live in a society in which lying seems to be a way of life. We lie for every and no reason at all. The book, The Day America Told the Truth, states that 91 percent of those surveyed routinely lie about matters they consider trivial, and 36 percent lie about important matters. 86 percent lie regularly to their parents, 75 percent lie to their friends, 73 percent to siblings and 69 percent to spouses.

We have many names for our lies – little white lies, half-truths, selective amnesia, evasive answers, rationalizations, if-by-whiskey speeches – there is no end to our justifications for our lies. Politicians, sales people, lawyers, and even preachers have built careers out of the lies they spew.

William Saffire in a New York Times Magazine article explaining the phrase, “if-by-whiskey speech” provided the following anecdote:

Fuller Warren, Florida’s governor in the 1950s was running for office in a year that counties were voting their local option on permitting the sale of liquor. Asked for his position on wet versus dry, he would say; ‘If by whiskey you mean the water of life that cheers men’s souls, that smoothes out the tensions of the day, that gives gentle perspective to one’s view of life, then put my name on the list of the fervent wets.

But if by whiskey you mean the devil’s brew that rends families, destroys careers and ruins one’s ability to work, then, count me in the ranks of the dries.’ Fuller Warren wasn’t going to take a stand and speak the truth; he was going to lie by talking out of both sides of his mouth just to get ahead.

Next time you are tempted to lie, remember these wise words:
Friedrich Nietzsche said, “What upsets me is not that you lied to me, but that from now on I can no longer believe you.” Honest Abe Lincoln admonished, “No man has a good enough memory to make a successful liar.” Austin O’Malley reminds us that “A lie has no legs to support it. Tell one and you are forced to tell another to back it up.” The Bible says, “The wages of sin is death.”

It may seem expedient in the short run to lie your way out of an uncomfortable situation, but the long term consequences carry a heavy penalty. Resist the temptation to lie and reap the sweet benefits.

The Courage to Seize the Moments of Your Life
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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The camera zoomed in on their faces already glistening with anticipation. Holding their pose as they waited for the music to start, I wondered how they stayed so calm. I guess that is the reward of countless hours of dogged preparation and sacrifices.

The music played and they began to move in unison, gliding across the ice. They knew the bar had been set pretty high, but this was their moment to shine. This was where all the hard work comes together. They had rehearsed their routine a thousand times. They knew every note in the melody, every arch of the spine. The gold medal was theirs if they could just dance flawlessly today.

He threw her up in the air…One, two, three, four rotations. We watched with bated breath, ready to jump to our feet and applaud their artistry. And jump up did we, but it wasn’t to applaud them. It was to get a better look at the beautiful skater now lying awkwardly on the ice. The music stopped as Zhang Dan dazed and clearly in pain was helped up her stunned partner, Zhang Hao.

Doubled over and skating very gingerly, Zhang Dan was helped off the ice by partner. As I watched their anguished faces on my television screen, I couldn’t help but feel sorry for them. For 4 years they had single-mindedly trained and prepared for this opportunity to shine before the world, earn Olympic gold, and take their place in the annals of the great athletes of our time. But with just one inopportune mistake, all their hopes came crashing down. What would they do now?

To my amazement, Zhang Dan made her way back on the ice again. She was testing out her knee. According to the rules, they could begin their routine again from where they had stopped with a deduction for the fall, of course.

The music started again, building up to where she fell. She was moving gracefully and all eyes were on her as they prepared for the side-by-side jump. Without hesitation, up in the air she went and landed cleanly and on one foot. The crowd erupted in applause, and Zhang and her partner responded with the skate of their lives.

At the end of their routine, Zhang covered her face with her hands and sank to the ice. The crowd’s ovation was thunderous. Would it be enough? Would the judges be just as blown away by the courage and artistry of this couple?

If you watched the Winter Olympics from Torrino, you know how this story ends. Zhang and her partner won the silver medal in the pairs skating event. That day, Zhang forever earned a place in my heart. What tenacity! What courage!

I couldn’t help but wonder what I would have done in her position. Would I have stayed off the ice and just licked my wounds? Would I have gutted it out like she did it even at the risk at further injury? With the whole world watching, would I have had the courage to seize the moment and not just bemoan my misfortune? And it occurred to me that each of us gets multiple chances to make these kind of decisions daily, no matter how mundane our existence. We all get to choose courage, caution or cowardice.

It takes courage to stand by a repentant spouse. It takes courage to say ‘No’ to pre-marital sex. It requires courage to commit to building a family. It takes courage to start a business. It takes courage to speak up one everyone else is silent. It takes courage to be a godly and effective leader.

Don’t sit around waiting for a worldwide audience before you begin to use your gifts. Your stage is wherever you are. Like Zhang, it is not whether obstacles come your way, but how you choose to respond to the obstacles.

As Mark Twain once said, “Courage is not the absence of fear; it is the mastery of fear.” Are there areas in your life where you need to stop cowering and instead step up courageously? Be like Zhang, turn those situations around and shine.

Quit Waiting for Tomorrow
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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“Tomorrow is the excuse of the lazy and the refuge of the incompetent.” It is reported that Colonel Rahl, commander of the British troops in Trenton, New Jersey, was playing cards when a courier brought an urgent message stating that General George Washington was crossing the Delaware River. Rahl put the letter in his pocket and didn't bother to read it until the game was finished. Then, realizing the seriousness of the situation, he hurriedly tried to rally his men to meet the coming attack, but his procrastination was his undoing. He and many of his men were killed and the rest of the regiment was captured.

Nolbert Quayle points out, "Only a few minutes' delay cost him his life, his honor, and the liberty of his soldiers.” Unfortunately, the history of the world and many of our lives are littered with the pain of half-finished plans, unexecuted resolutions, and promises of tomorrow. I wish I could say my life is the exception, but that would be lying. Several months into the year, many of us have not so much as started on the goals we set at the beginning of the year, let alone accomplished them.

Consider for a few moments what price you have paid for procrastination. What has the cumulative cost been in terms of good health, wealth, loving and fulfilling relationships, self-confidence, accolades, spiritual growth, and even self love? Has it really been worth it to go through life not being able to discipline yourself to do what needs to be done when it should be done?

It has been said that the most successful people are simply those who do what needs to be done whether they feel like it or not. No doubt there are world champion marathoners who wake up in the morning with no motivation to run yet another mile, but do so anyway.  There are Pulitzer Prize winners who considered quitting a project altogether, or maybe just cutting a corner or two, which would most certainly have cost them their prizes.

What have you been putting off in your life and justifying? Perhaps, you are one of the many who like me loved the expression, “I do my best work under pressure.” Sure, but have you have tried to do that work without the pressure piled on by discrimination? How many masterpieces have you foregone by buying into that lie?

In our society we put off healthy eating choices and exercise and wonder why obesity and its related diseases are on the rise? We put off saving money, but are quick to buy up whatever we can get credit for, hence the economic pain we are now experiencing. We put off expressing love to our spouses and get bitter when divorce is imminent. We put off education and any meaningful learning of a trade and are upset when life becomes a hardship. We put off spending time with God, and rail against being the devil’s whipping post.

It is time to stop the procrastination and to start taking charge of your life by choosing minute by minute to do the things that matter. Turn off the TV, Internet and video games and go to bed. Wake up just one hour earlier a day and gain yourself an extra 7 hours to pursue your dreams every week.
Get around doers who will challenge you to strive for your best. Though it is mid-year, decide again what you want out of your life this year, this month, this day and go for it. Never mind where you might end up. You will always be in a better place for having resisted the urge to procrastinate.

Don’t Quit, Achieve Your Dreams
Live Your Abundant Life by Aya Fubara Eneli

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Have you ever been so overwhelmed or discouraged that you decided to throw in the towel and give up on a dream? In my interactions, I often talk with people who have expressed regret over plans and dreams they have abandoned. They typically share their rationale for quitting on their dreams, but no matter the reason they give for their decision, there is no masking the sense of loss of what could have been.

Have you quit on a dream or goal you once had? Perhaps, you had always planned to get a college degree in a specific field, but when the baby came, you got a job and abandoned your original goal. Maybe your goal was to trim down to a healthy weight, but after you hurt your knee exercising you decided your goal is impossible and abandoned it. Did you once dream of being happily married, of travelling to distant lands, of a house on the beach, of writing a book, or raising God-fearing and productive children? What dreams have you buried?

To quit is to settle. To quit is to relinquish, resign, let go, abandon, discontinue, it is to depart from. Quitting connotes more than just a change of mind or direction. It is more than realizing you were on the wrong track and making the necessary changes. Usually, when people quit on their dreams there is a modicum of regret and pain. The decision to quit is often in response to people or things that we consider out of our control. A loved one died, resources had to be directed elsewhere, someone said you were inept, your original plans did not succeed as you had hoped, someone hurt you, and the list goes on. The decision to quit on a dream is quite often accompanied by thoughts and feelings that we have no option but to let go of our dream permanently, but how often is that really the case?

It is a fact that whenever you make a decision to achieve at a higher level, you will be faced with challenges and some setbacks. Think of it like passing from one grade to another. Each grade will require more of you and should cause you to have to acquire more skills in order to excel and be promoted. The idea that we should all be able to sail through to our dreams is a fallacy. Excellence requires effort. Success requires effort. Winners must persist. You can be talented, but if you can’t persist through the storms and setbacks of life then you will always find yourself quitting and settling for less than you can be.

So, if you have or had a dream or goal, don’t quit on it. Get to work and remember the following five points as you work towards your victory:

Let your biggest challenges and obstacles become your stepping stones to success.
Today, people marvel at best-selling author and speaker, Joyce Meyer, but her success did not come easy.  Sexually abused by her father, she married and divorced at a young age and suffered from low self-esteem. But she knew God had more for her and she began to teach women through a Bible Study she led in her home. Now, she is at the helm of a multi-million worldwide organization that ministers to millions across the globe. Her life demonstrates that one can overcome great odds and achieve happiness and success and this inspires many to do the same.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.
Steve Jobs, founder and CEO of Apple Computer and Pixar Animation gave a commencement speech by the above title to Stanford University graduates that continues to inspire me years later. His advice seemed basic: find your passion and pursue it. Dream big and keep on dreaming even when those do not understand your dreams or passions.

When Bill Gates started Microsoft most had never heard of computers. It was inconceivable to the majority that computers would ever become a staple in businesses and homes. Many ridiculed him, but who is laughing now? Your dreams may seem foolish to many, but that is there problem; not yours. Stay hungry to make your dreams reality. Stay foolish and continue to think outside of the box and chart new territories.
Steve Jobs certainly takes his own advice. He started his company, Apple, in his garage. After he was ousted from Apple due to a difference in opinion, he created a new company called NeXT. Apple came back and offered to buy NeXT, and the technology he developed is now largely responsible for Apple’s current renaissance.

Choose Faith over Fear and Place that Faith in God.  
So many times we quit even before we really get going because we are so afraid of what looms ahead. It seems safer just to settle for whatever everyone around us is doing. It is faith in an all powerful God that will keep you dreaming, hoping and acting on your beliefs when all the signs around you point to certain doom. Faith in God transforms ordinary mortals into men and women who accomplish extraordinary feats.

Faith in God enabled Moses to lead the nation of Israel out of captivity and through the Red Sea as the Egyptian army bared down on them. Faith in God fueled Harriet Tubman’s courage to repeatedly risk her life to help blacks escape from slavery and lead them North to freedom even with a bounty on her head. Faith emboldened Ida B. Wells-Barnett to speak up against the lynching of black men when few had the guts to take on the establishment and the ire of white supremacists.

Faith propelled Mother Teresa to commit her entire life to serving the most wretched and downcast of the earth even when fame and fortune beckoned. Place your faith not in yourself or any other human; we are far too unreliable. Place your faith not in riches and things, they can all pass away in the eye of a hurricane. Place your faith in a mighty, omnipotent, unshakeable God, and know that if you persist in your passion, you will eventually reap success.

Make Everyday Count.
Pay attention to the little things each day. Make sure that you are always taking steps towards your goals and dreams. It is the little things we do consistently that determine the direction and quality of our lives. Though it might be tempting and even expedient to put off till tomorrow what you can do today, that is a habit that will ensure you never succeed at the level of your potential.

No matter what the day brings, make sure you never lose sight of your ultimate goal. Some days you are going to be super productive.  On other days, it may feel like you have taken three colossal steps backwards. No matter how discouraging a circumstance may be, don’t give up on any day because as your days go, so go your weeks, then your months, your years and finally your life. As you fight to make each day count, you win the war to have lived a fulfilled and worthwhile life.

Create or Tap into Power Networks.
Find some people who have either done what you are trying to do or are on the same path as you and are serious about their success and get linked up. Success leaves clues. Any honest person who has achieved great success will tell you that they had at least one person who believed in them and spurred them on.

A recent USA Today poll indicated that more than 90 percent of workers reported that mentoring has played a significant role in their success. Find or create a community of people who are committed to helping you make the most of your life. You may have different communities that you tap into to meet various purposes.
For instance, you can have mentors and colleagues in your line of work, be part of an investment club for your finances, and also have a Bible Study group that sharpens you spiritually. While you pursue your dreams, be sure to cultivate and nurture healthy relationships with your spouse, children and family. Their support, or lack of it, will greatly impact you for success or failure.

The Bible assures us that into each life some rain will fall. In other words, we will all face challenges and obstacles. No one is exempt. Do not let your challenges derail your success. Don’t quit, press on to achieve your goals. Who knows, you may be on your way to the Achiever’s Hall of Fame.


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